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I think often times time is best. It keeps your from hurting them more and saying things you really don't mean out of anger. But in that situation I think it is important to express what you are doing. Simply by saying "I am angry right now and I need some time to process." Going to sleep shouldnt have anything to do with it…thats just something we do every day and if it happens to fall in the time you need to take…so be it. Personally, when I am angry it is best for me to shut up and let some time pass. It helps me look at the bigger picture and often makes me realize what I am angry about is petty and retarted and now worth arguing over and being mad about. If it is your significant other you might want to be a lil more careful and intentional.

I think often times time is best. It keeps your from hurting them more and saying things you really don't mean out of anger. But in that situation I think it is important to express what you are doing. Simply by saying "I am angry right now and I need some time to process." Going to sleep shouldnt have anything to do with it…thats just something we do every day and if it happens to fall in the time you need to take…so be it. Personally, when I am angry it is best for me to shut up and let some time pass. It helps me look at the bigger picture and often makes me realize what I am angry about is petty and retarted and now worth arguing over and being mad about. If it is your significant other you might want to be a lil more careful and intentional.

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Personally I think space and time is a good thing. However, not right before bed. If it is really an issue that you can't work through before you go to sleep then I guess you have to go to bed angry. But it is never a good idea to go to bed angry without at least trying to have eased the tension because you will just wake up angry also and it just makes it that much harder to fix. Also sometimes while you need space and time, it isn't what the other person needs and it can often lead to more confusion and make the problem worse than it was to begin with.

Personally I think space and time is a good thing. However, not right before bed. If it is really an issue that you can't work through before you go to sleep then I guess you have to go to bed angry. But it is never a good idea to go to bed angry without at least trying to have eased the tension because you will just wake up angry also and it just makes it that much harder to fix. Also sometimes while you need space and time, it isn't what the other person needs and it can often lead to more confusion and make the problem worse than it was to begin with.

Brian and I try not to go to bed angry at each other. I agree that SOMETIMES time and space can help. I can understand where the hurt comes from. They don't think you think that the issue is important enough to settle it and your feelings and what you want are more important. I think it depends on the situation and the issue. Having space and thinking about it can be beneficial.

Brian and I try not to go to bed angry at each other. I agree that SOMETIMES time and space can help. I can understand where the hurt comes from. They don't think you think that the issue is important enough to settle it and your feelings and what you want are more important. I think it depends on the situation and the issue. Having space and thinking about it can be beneficial.

Thanks everybody. Good stuff. Thanks for commenting too – I appreciate you taking time to do that!

Thanks everybody. Good stuff. Thanks for commenting too – I appreciate you taking time to do that!

The bible says to not go to bed angry. Sooooo. That’s what I agree with.

The bible says to not go to bed angry. Sooooo. That’s what I agree with.

Whenever possible, it's best to NOT let the sun go down on your anger. When you're married that's probably more crucial and, at times easier, since you are THERE together But, if you are in a committed relationship, it's important to try to resolve the issue or at least diffuse the tension before the day ends.

All that being said, taking time to think things through and pray about things has its benefits. If it's toward the end of the evening & there is still tension about an issue, I recommend holding hands & each taking a turn to pray aloud, asking God to reduce the tension & give guidance in the coming hours & days. Ask Him to show each of you how to learn from the situation & grow in Him. Acknowledge that you wish your thoughts, words, actions, and the relationship to bring Him honor & glory.

Whenever possible, it's best to NOT let the sun go down on your anger. When you're married that's probably more crucial and, at times easier, since you are THERE together But, if you are in a committed relationship, it's important to try to resolve the issue or at least diffuse the tension before the day ends.

All that being said, taking time to think things through and pray about things has its benefits. If it's toward the end of the evening & there is still tension about an issue, I recommend holding hands & each taking a turn to pray aloud, asking God to reduce the tension & give guidance in the coming hours & days. Ask Him to show each of you how to learn from the situation & grow in Him. Acknowledge that you wish your thoughts, words, actions, and the relationship to bring Him honor & glory.

John…what ever she wants… haha!

John…what ever she wants… haha!

Personally I cannot handle when people walk away from an argument or situation with things unresolved. it leaves my mind to wander, worry, stress, and yearn only to make things right. While I realize it is probably my own personal issue that I need to work on, I tend to personalize the situation when someone walks away…thinking they don't care and that whatever is next on their agenda is more important than unresolved issues as well as my feelings. Like I said, I acknowledge the fact that I need to work on that personalization, as well. While someone else may be able to rest in the midst of unresolved anger/tension/issues, I am not able to rest; therefore, I try to remind myself & remain aware of the fact that others may have a hard time with that as well. When two people have differing opinions and ways of handling issues, I think it's important to acknowledge those difference and agree on a way all situations will be handled from then on out so that each knows what to expect. I believe THAT agreement as well as consistency from that point forward, should be honored, so all situations are handled alike, leaving less room for question, worry, stress, accusations, etc…

but, that's just my own two little cents worth…..there is nothing that works the same for everyone.

Personally I cannot handle when people walk away from an argument or situation with things unresolved. it leaves my mind to wander, worry, stress, and yearn only to make things right. While I realize it is probably my own personal issue that I need to work on, I tend to personalize the situation when someone walks away…thinking they don't care and that whatever is next on their agenda is more important than unresolved issues as well as my feelings. Like I said, I acknowledge the fact that I need to work on that personalization, as well. While someone else may be able to rest in the midst of unresolved anger/tension/issues, I am not able to rest; therefore, I try to remind myself & remain aware of the fact that others may have a hard time with that as well. When two people have differing opinions and ways of handling issues, I think it's important to acknowledge those difference and agree on a way all situations will be handled from then on out so that each knows what to expect. I believe THAT agreement as well as consistency from that point forward, should be honored, so all situations are handled alike, leaving less room for question, worry, stress, accusations, etc…

but, that's just my own two little cents worth…..there is nothing that works the same for everyone.